It is possible to be married, but not a team. Marriage operates best when you see the two of you as a team. Some people have created a five, ten, even a fifteen year plan for their marriage. Do whatever works best for your marriage. The key to working as a team is to work in the areas of your strength. The areas you are weak in God has designed your spouse to be strong. Instead of complaining about what he or she doesn’t do, allow them to do what they are good at doing. For example, Jonathan rarely cleans at home, however, because he works so hard in his business I am able to stay home with our children and homeschool them. So, he doesn’t work inside the home, and I don’t work outside of the home, but everything still manages to get done! I want to share with you what Jonathan and I do that helps us operate as a team in our marriage. I created the acronym F.O.C.U.S. When we focus on our marriage we will develop a strong, healthy, long-lasting, peaceful, and enjoyable marriage. Here are five tips to building a strong marriage in the form of the acronym F.O.C.U.S [click to continue…]
A few months ago the pastor of the church we attend decided to have a movie night. The pastor invited everyone to go to the movies to see “War Room.” We were not able to make it. I don’t remember why we didn’t go, maybe our children had sports or maybe we just wanted to relax at home that day, I’m not really sure. Well about a month ago or so, Jonathan and I selected a movie from Red Box, it was “War Room.”
This movie is very powerful. We need more movies like this one. The kind of movie that makes you a better person when you are done watching it. Sadly, most movies are just space fillers, but not this one! I am extremely happy that we watched this movie at home with just each other. The “War Room” is the kind of movie that forces you to meditate on the way you operate your own life and challenges you to change. I do not want to go into too much detail about the movie for fear of taking away the impact the movie can have on your life. However I will give you one example from the movie that woke me up spiritually. [click to continue…]
There are two major decisions we will make in our life that have the potential to affect us long term; who will be our God and who will be our mate. Sadly enough, many people view being married and being a Christian as a life with restrictions and lack of excitement. In John 10:10 Jesus said, “10 The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows]. It was never Gods intention to take from our lives; He desires only to make our lives better.
The things we consider to be restrictions are actually Gods way of protecting us from what will ultimately destroy us. We must understand that being married is a blessing and is also Gods way of providing a covering for us. We can better understand the importance of two people working together by reading this scripture. [click to continue…]