There are two major decisions we will make in our life that have the potential to affect us long term; who will be our God and who will be our mate. Sadly enough, many people view being married and being a Christian as a life with restrictions and lack of excitement. In John 10:10 Jesus said, “10 The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows]. It was never Gods intention to take from our lives; He desires only to make our lives better.
The things we consider to be restrictions are actually Gods way of protecting us from what will ultimately destroy us. We must understand that being married is a blessing and is also Gods way of providing a covering for us. We can better understand the importance of two people working together by reading this scripture. [click to continue…]
Marriage does not come with instructions. The only tips we may receive about marriage are given to us the day we are married by other married couples. Which usually include sayings such as these; “She’s always right.” “Ignore the little things” and “You have to pick your battles.” These sayings do not prepare us for marriage.
We have all been given last minute advice about marriage. The tips can come from people who are happy in their marriage, people who are not happy in their marriage, and people who are just repeating non encouraging beliefs as a way of conversation. Before Jonathan and I got married we took pre-marital counseling classes, and yet, we still face challenges in our marriage. So there is no way to avoid struggles in marriage. We have to take marriage and life one day at a time. [click to continue…]
There have been a few things I have found to be difficult to do in my life. When Jonathan and I were dating, I had to learn how to communicate with him. I remember the first time I hung up the phone on him during the middle of a disagreement, that was an experience I will never forget. He called me back right away which I did not expect. When I answered the phone I was expecting him to yell and be upset, but he was calm. Jonathan said something similar to this, “ Nikki, if we’re going to have a great relationship, we’re going to have to learn to communicate with one another.” After that I immediately starting working on my communication skills. God knows exactly how to join two people together. He joins two people who are strong where the other is weak.
The areas that bother you about your spouse bother you for one or two reasons. [click to continue…]