5 Tips For Meeting Your Wife’s Needs

September 8, 2011

How beautiful would our Christian marriages be if we were treating one another the way God created us to do so? Today I want to talk about loving your wife the way God intended for her to be loved.  I have often defined myself as a hopeless romantic.  I enjoy being treated with tenderness.   My husband often accuses me of being spoiled.  I respond by saying, “I am not spoiled, just well taken care of.”  That is the running joke in our home.

Why shouldn’t we expect to be well taken care of by our husbands?  The Lord did not create woman until everything was in place for her. “But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”  Genesis 2:20-22

She was the last part of God’s masterpiece.  After the Lord created the world, He made man and gave him dominion over it. Ladies, the Lord waited until everything was in place to create us!

Eve was in need of nothing.  So are we spoiled or were we created to expect God’s best?  So how do you take care of your wife so that she lacks nothing?  Engage her five senses! Here are 5 tips to loving your wife:

1. Sight- Men are not the only ones that enjoy looking at something nice.  Show your wife that you want to look nice for her as well.

  • Even if you are doing nothing, but sitting around the house in your underwear. Take an interest in your appearance by making sure that there are at least no holes in your underwear.
  • Buy some new underwear.  Try a color that is out of ordinary for you.
  • Shave- not just for work, but for date night if needed.

2. Sound– How often has your wife complained that you do not compliment her enough?  However, you believe that you compliment her quite frequently. Statistics say that we remember 20% of what we hear, are you complimenting her at least 15% of the time you interact with her or do you spend more time offering constructive criticism?

  • Tell her that you love her and if you had to do it all over, you would still choose her.
  • Tell her that you are very pleased with the way she cares for the kids, pets, house, herself, etc. Just express to her that you trust her judgment.
  • Tell her that her body is beautiful to you. Verbally express the parts that you love the most about her body.

3.  Taste- Women are often in charge of exciting others’ taste buds through making all the meals.  Engage her taste buds for a change.

  • Give her a break from cooking. Prepare a meal that will excite her taste buds.
  • If you do not know how to cook, then go out to eat for dinner.
  • Surprise her and introduce some type of food during foreplay (fruit, candy, syrup)

4.  Touch- A sure way to let your wife know that you cannot get enough of her is to touch her as often as you can.

  • When she is washing the dishes, hug her from behind, or simply rub her back as you walk by.
  • Undress your wife, literally.  She may resist at first because she may think that you want something from her.  But assure her that you just want to help her.  Lay her on the bed and take off every article of her clothing and send her to the shower or bath.
  • The next time you are in church put your arm around her and rub her shoulder.

5.  Smell- Nothing has the power to make someone run or come closer to you like the way you smell. Take an interest in the way you smell around her.

  • If you do not already wear cologne, you need to start.  Or if you already do wear cologne, try a new one.
  • After getting out of the shower apply some scented lotion.  This may sound funny, but this allows you to smell fresh longer.
  • Buy scented antiperspirant deodorant.  Men have a tendency of buying deodorant that allows them to sweat and smell.  This may be fine for the gym, but not for spicing up everyday life.

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