“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:5
His command is that we make love often without any break unless we both agree to it. In the event of extended prayer time, He warns us not to go without sex for too long. In general, this is often an easy task for men to adhere to since their sex drive tends to be a bit higher than most women. On the other hand, some women can find this command challenging because they do not want sex as often as their husbands do.
Our sex drives are so different that we often joke about how much women require in order to be ready for sex verse the amount of time men need to be in the mood for sex. In an attempt to explain how different our sex drives may be, men and women have been compared to kitchen appliances. “Women are like crock pots if you want to have great sex with them at night, you must start to romance them early in the morning and throughout the day. Men on the other hand are like microwaves, ready in no time at all.”
This statement is funny because it has a bit of truth to it. Women require more for their sexual needs to be met but our husband should not always have to wait for us to get in the mood. Sometimes we just have to make the choice to put his sexual needs over ours. Here are 4 tips that will put your sex drive in fast forward mode.
I was being a great mother, but my priorities were not in order because my husband was not first. I know my priorities were not in order because I was too tired to have sex with my husband and I was also annoyed that he even wanted to have sex when he could see I was tired. Well I have changed a few things around that seem to have benefited my family. My kids and I spend a little more time at home, however there are still times when I am not in the mood. I have found a routine that works for me and I pray that you will be able to use these tips to improve your sex life. Here are the 4 tips for keeping up with his sex drive:
1. Take a shower– no longer than 10 minutes, remember your husband’s in the mood. Tell him you want to freshen up for him. By taking a shower this will give you a chance to wake up, freshen up and prepare you mentally for making love.
2. Put on something that makes you feel desirable– scented lotion, heels, makeup, ect. If there is a piece of lingerie that your husband thinks you look spectacular in, wear it. Or if you have a piece of lingerie that you feel great in, put it on.
3. Play sensual/slow music– You will find that the music will help turn you on because all music has a spirit attached to it. If you don’t believe me, try it. The next time you are going on a family car trip and the kids are fighting, turn on some gospel music. Within a matter of moments, the kids will either be sleeping, quit, or singing along.
4. Pray– Before the two of you are about to begin hold hands and pray over your intimacy. Pray that the Lord would be honored through your intimacy. Ask him to clear your mind and remove any distractions. God created sex for married couples, so don’t be afraid to talk to him about it.
Challenge: This week before you make love to your husband, pray over your love making even if you are in the mood to have sex. Pray and see if you notice a change in the atmosphere of your love making or a change in you during your love making.