The Truth About Submission In The Christian Marriage

August 4, 2011

What is Christian Submission?  What does it mean to submit to your husband?

This question has probably been a topic of conversation within every Christian marriage.  Submit is defined as: to give over or yield to the power or authority of another.  When a woman hears the word submission (especially when it comes out of our husbands mouth) it generally makes us feel powerless.

In fact, we should realize that our decision to be submissive to our husband has the ability to impact him greatly. We tend to believe that being submissive is our role in marriage.  But as we search the word to understand it from God’s point of view we realize that, submission is not our role as wives, it is our response to our husbands role.  God has designed a structure for the family, and it starts with the husband being the head of it.

22 Wives, submit to your husband’s as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Ephesians 5: 22-24

There are 2 reasons why it is important for us to be submissive to our husbands:
1.  God has commanded us to do so. ( Ephesians 5: 22-24) That alone should give us a burning desire to submit to our husbands, if for no other reason than out of reverence for God.
2.  It forces our husbands into their role, as head of the family.  God has called our husbands to lead us.  However, being a leader is difficult and if we fight our husbands for the lead, he will eventually cave in.  God knew how great of a calling being a leader is, he knew that our husbands would need encouragement just to continue doing what he has called them to do.

Having a submissive heart, according to the bible, will also save a husband who is not a believer as well as encourage him to maintain order within the family.  (1 Peter 3:1)  Our husbands are affected in so many ways just by our decision to do things God’s way.  When we submit to our husbands we are helping them become who God wants them to be.  Submission is our way of telling our husbands, we believe in you! We’re a team! You can do it!”

Submission involves both attitude and behavior.  Accept that God has made your husband the leader over you and your family.  Then allow your actions to encourage your husband to lead your family the best way he knows how.  It is not enough for you to just bite your tongue and go along with what your husband says.  You must have an attitude of peace and respect.( Ephesians 5:33)

Understand that God knows best and agree to trust God and allow your husband to lead.  It doesn’t mean that the two of you should not talk things over, but it does mean that your husband has the final say.  Wives, as our husbands seek to carry out their role, we have a choice to make.  We can battle them for control or we can encourage them to lead by our godly response.

Challenge:  Decide today that you will trust God and his plan for your family.  Pray that God will give you a submissive attitude and heart.  Then begin to release the control to your husband, and encourage the decisions he makes.

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